Learning to love you

Full Woman Full Spirit

Love the one thing we talk about, we want to be loved and also we want other people to be the object of our love. It is in the movies we watch, the books we read and the latest issue of our favorite monthly women’s magazine.

They tell us how to love how we should treat the object of our love. We make out time to visit, pray for and hold those we love when they need us the most. It is as if we have become experts in loving everyone else that the one that is constantly being ignored is the person inside: yes you. So while we are excited and happy when he calls on the phone the person inside stands in the corner hoping that we can see that they are calling out too.

While they tell us that the dress is not beautiful enough and it does not suit us and they pick out a dress they think suits us. They tell us that they love us so much and at such they need to change who we are so that we can become a better version of ourselves yes? oh hell no! ( in my best Maya voice from the series Girlfriends) we are slowly becoming an imitation of something that is definetely not who we are.

Why do we forget to love ourselves as women? we are always busy loving others our kids/spouses/friends that we forget to love who we are. Those pages we flip through that cause us to question why we don’t look like the images we see . The fewer compliments and likes we receive that make us question our beauty,strength and flaws.

There is nothing as inherently beautiful as loving the woman you are, in all totality. Choosing to change any aspect of yourself is not self loathing please, however choosing to change yourself for someone else can be very tricky as you should be loved just as you are, because you are adequate, complete just the way you are!

The thing is if you do not love yourself enough it is difficult for people to love and respect you. They would pick, nip, criticise and scrutinise and pass off their own insecurities onto you. Nothing is ever good enough, not the hair, the dress, your constant smile, and even the jokes that are actually funny.

I am no self help guru, I have just learnt to love myself more and be kinder to myself, and to be my own biggest cheerleader. I constantly remind myself that every day I am more than enough perhaps even more than ‘more’.

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